Wednesday, July 24, 2013

The Big Picture

I was going to title this thoughts on death but...that might have been awful. Plus, it also includes thoughts on life. 


One of my closest friends' grandfather passed away over the weekend and it made me realize it's been since 2009 that I lost someone close to me. I can get pretty emotional on the topic so I figured the more I remind myself and read up on why death is an essential part of this life, the better off I'll be...eventually. 

[I rediscovered two great talks by internationally renowned cardiothoracic surgeon and member of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day SaintsRussell M. Nelson. See here and here.] 


"Each organ of your body is a wondrous gift from God. Each eye has an auto-focusing lens. Nerves and muscles control two eyes to make a single three-dimensional image. The eyes are connected to the brain, which records the sights seen. Your heart is an incredible pump. It has four delicate valves that...open and close more than 100,000 times a day—36 million times a year...The body heals its cuts, bruises, and broken bones. (Be we reminded that a perfect body is not required to achieve one’s divine destiny. In fact, some of the sweetest spirits are housed in frail or imperfect bodies. Great spiritual strength is often developed by people with physical challenges, precisely because they are so challenged.) 

If the body’s capacity for normal function, defense, repair, regulation, and regeneration were to prevail without limit, life here would continue in perpetuity. Yes, we would be stranded here on earth! Mercifully for us, our Creator provided for aging and other processes that would ultimately result in our physical death. 


Returning from earth to life in our heavenly home requires passage through—and not around—the doors of death. We were born to die, and we die to live. (2 Cor. 6:9.) Moreover, we can’t fully appreciate joyful reunions later without tearful separations now. The only way to take sorrow out of death is to take love out of life. {how terrible would that be?! I love love!} 

Think of the alternative. If all sixty-nine billion people who have ever lived on earth were still here, imagine the traffic jam!{Rick would be beyond ill about that jam}
Meanwhile, we who tarry here have a few precious moments remaining “to prepare to meet God.”(Alma 34:32.)"
Life does not begin with birth, nor does it end with death. It's not so much of a goodbye; it's more of a see ya later/until we meet again! woop.  


On a semi-related note...



Sometimes I find myself having a temporary lapse of judgement and getting so caught up in a job title that I start to wish I had chosen a different major (even though I LOVED mine! & had I not chosen the major I did, I wouldn't have had a great internship which influenced me in more ways than I feel like typing, I would not have met one of my now best friends, AND I would not have been around to date R! [hello, we got married! Whoa, can't imagine if that timing was off and I was living my life without him -- so at the end of the day, I remember why I'm SO happy about that choice), I get so caught up in wanting new clothes to dress stylishly that I seem ungrateful for all that I have, and in pinning ideas for our future children's clothes, rooms and birthday parties so I can be THAT mom that I lose time where I could be doing more important things. & I know R can get so stressed about the thought of future residency programs that he gets overwhelmed with what he is doing in that moment.  All the while forgetting, momentarily, that those things are not at all a method of valuing individual worth. There is so much more to each soul on this earth than those temporary things. Individual worth comes from the fact that we have divine potential; we are children of God. 'With the help of the scriptures, words of the prophets, and personal revelation, we gradually come to an awareness of our true nature and destiny.'  "The attributes by which we shall be judged one day are all spiritual. These include love, virtue, integrity, compassion, and service to others.
I'm not saying there is anything wrong with pursuing a good job/title, nice clothes, preparing to be THAT mom, or hoping for a spot in a notable residency program. Nothing wrong at all, actually. It's just that "occasionally we [at least I] need to step back from the details of our lives and reacquaint ourselves with the big picture." To be reminded of what is truly important in this life and refocus on an eternal perspective. I recognize that our marriage in the temple is my most valuable accomplishment. It will have an everlasting effect on generations to come. The joy that comes and will come because of it is irreplaceable.

& since the title of this post is "The Big Picture".....and since I love pictures..I find it appropriate to post a big picture. So here is one from my biggest accomplishment :) 




Tuesday, July 23, 2013

#13-14 of 30

13. Describe 5 weaknesses you have.
  1. I can be too sensitive about things.
  2. I tend to be a people pleaser.
  3. I can be terrible at keeping in touch with people. (I still love yall!)
  4. I'm typically very happy but sometimes, during "the" week, it's easier for me to be in a "mood" than to choose not to be.I'm working hard on this.
  5. Sometimes I wait to react..which can cause an unfortunate built up explosion of emotion.


14. Describe 5 strengths you have.


  1. I'm good at thinking before I react. Sometimes this can be a weakness, see above #5. 
  2. I'm calm. I don't like to yell or be yelled at - I firmly believe that how you say something is as important as what you are saying. (what a blessing I married somebody who is so tender)
  3. I learn/catch on quickly. I love learning new things.
  4. I'm thoughtful/mindful of others.
  5. I am socially wise. I can get along with most anyone. "That's not to say I never stick my foot in my mouth.  However, I know how to include the outcast, forgive quickly and honestly, and help others feel good about themselves {I guess when I'm not worrying too much about what they think of me....}.  I'm also very introspective {probably to a fault} and feel like I have very stable and clear self-awareness.  Having said that, though, I very well could be walking around thinking I'm kinda neat with everyone else around me {except [R], most of the time} trying to avoid me because I'm unbearably annoying." (I didn't write that but it absolutely described my thoughts)




Tuesday, July 16, 2013

Once & Doce/Treinta

11. Describe 10 pet peeves you have.

  1. People having ulterior motives/me knowing somebody is lying to my face. 
  2. Mouth smacking/loud chewing.
  3. Having to repeat myself more than twice. & grammar. 
  4. When the only car you have to wait for to drive by doesn't switch out of the lane you're waiting to get into..
  5. Rudeness/inconsiderateness.
  6. Negative nancies.
  7. Extremists of anything.
  8. Dirty dishes piled up IN the sink. I prefer them piled to the side....so that I have room to wash. 
  9. Dirty fingernails. 
  10. An empty box/carton in the fridge/pantry. Or pouring a bowl of cereal to then learn we're out of milk.



12. Describe a typical day in your current life.

Alarm at 5:15. 
Gym until 6:35.
Work 8-5. 
Lunch with the hubs if I'm lucky.
Home unless R/I/we has/have a meeting or outing. 
Thrilling, I know.

Friday, July 12, 2013

9 and 10 out of 30

9. List 10 people who have influenced you and describe how. 
(....ok more like 14....not including the 8372 family members in Mexico)

1. Husband R.
The love of my life...every day he influences me for the better. He keeps my heart full of joy.

2. My parents. D & L.
Their unwavering example of unconditional love.

3. My in-laws. D & P. 
They are so faithful and loving. I'm pretty sure Pam has never done or said anything bad in her whole life.
They are just so sweet.

4. My family in Mexico.
Every time I visit they make me feel like a princess.
Hispanic culture is especially loving and giving and I'm grateful to have had that example in my life. 

5. Grandma & Grandpa H.
 They are still so in love and it is adorable.
They emulate "choose your love, love your choice".

6. M & J.
They've both endured a lot but they both keep smiling and enjoying life.

7. L & Kathia.
Their confidence. They are completely themselves all of the time.
If Lis wants to do something, it's almost a guarantee she will accomplish it.
Kathia will skip to a bus stop singing a song (loudly) without a care in the world.

8. Brother B.
It was at institute that my love of the gospel truly grew and advanced.

9. The Swll Family.
All of their examples of always being SO willing to serve others. Also,
E is the definition of knowing you are a daughter of God and what that entails. She is so cool.
Plus, she took care of me when I was Peggy Pegleg.
Hot D is so FUN and such a strong woman.She just makes you want to be like her when you grow up.

10. Kuh-rye-nuh.
She was like a mom, sister, excited scream/dance partner, therapist, etc...all wrapped up in a roommate.
Plus, she has the most contagious smile in the world.

At first I couldn't think of enough people..and then I couldn't stop thinking of people who have influenced me!
Every one of my friends has had an impact on some aspect of my life
...this would be far too long of an entry if I listed you all.
And it would be more of a "why I love __insert name here__" entry.
There are also the people who influence me by
being perfect opportunities to work on attributes such as being teachable, kind, patient, and compassionate.
I think everybody I meet has something I can learn from them.


10. Describe your most embarrassing moment. 

This ought to lighten the mood a bit...I went to my first yoga class at the university gym.
After some relaxation breathing and stretching we were in some legs up position....
....I farted....
...then I laughed...
...nobody else did...
I haven't been to a yoga class since. 



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Thursday, July 4, 2013

Junio de estudio

Lot's of exciting things in June, such as PUPPIES! (we can't get one but they've still been fun to visit)
 ....oh and R'S BIRTHDAY! ;)
(I had to leave it out of things we were looking forward to in previous post 
to play it off like it didn't cross my mind all the time and I hadn't been planning anything!)
Unfortunately he had to study all day
(that's pretty much what the whole month consisted of...he is done with step 2 now, yay!)
and I had to work,
but I surprised him with a birthday scavenger hunt after dinner.
I think he liked it :)

We've explored some more of this city - 
went to the dueling pianos...the french fries = scrumptious, divine, perfect (...you get it); 
the historic building = neato but very creepy if you go to the upstairs bathroom; 
the smell = so disgusting that we will not be going back 
...unless we are going to eat french fries...in the outdoor area.

We also explored the historic district downtown. 
R told me he had a surprise for me
(it was Untold Stories of the ER, my favorite.)
...then when we headed out to run an errand he said he had another surprise.
He was taking me to the gelato shop!
It was our 3rd or 4th attempt at going there, unsuccessfully.
Their hours are inconsistent but he checked online for that day.
It was d.e.l.i.c.i.o.u.s. but a little pricey $$.
After eating that, walking around seemed like a good idea.

There was a girls camp fundraising activity at church and
someone in our ward is very talented and was auctioning off
temple sketches -- we were lucky to have him personalize one for us as an example.

We also went to the beach with some of the ward...
on the way there R said, "wouldn't it be great if someone had kayaks there?!"
Well, someone did!
Since before R and I were officially dating we've had a bet -
I thought I could smoke him in a kayak
(because my girls camp high adventure was kayaking upstream for days..we got pretty good)
and he thought NO WAY.
So finally, over two years later, we had an opportunity to settle it.
(I always said in the two years that passed he's been too scared to ever take me kayaking)
The kayaks were different....the paddles were different...he won.
Fast forward a week or two...we have another chance to go kayaking --
this time with identical equipment.
R won...that is all...but it was really CLOSE and he was nervous for a minute. 

R visited W & M and the fam while he was away for part one of Step 2.
While there he moved a piano, watched T dribble honey everywhere, and cleaned up vomit.
I'd say that's an exciting visit.

We've made friends with the military couples in the ward, they're all awesome.
We play spades with the Es which R is super excited about
because he loooves him some spades (unless he loses).


I guess it's getting to be not so bad here after all.

Plus, we're getting really good at baking chocolate chip cookies these days. Holla.

Life lesson of June: Do not over cream the cookie batter.
& as if we didn't already know, THE CHURCH IS TRUE. There is no denying it.





Things we're NOT looking forward to in July: not being together for the 4th of July... for the third year in a row.